What goes around comes around.....

Why do we only learn from our pain? Why are we all so in-different to other people's pain. Why do people make choices that destroy other people's lives? Do people lack compassion?

I heard, 'Its different when you are on the receiving side...' Duh! Sure it is. Hurts like hell. Ain't it?

This, so far, has been the most interesting dumb thing I have heard.

The context is as follows(names have been changed to protect the absolute absence of grey matter in the people involved)

Jane and John are together. Jane is stealing from John on a regular basis. Jane takes the loot and enjoys with Dick. John finds out and 'digs' into Dick's activity. Dick however, to Jane's ignorance, is stealing from her and enjoys with many others. John who inspite of being devastated, tries to tell Jane, Dick is stealing from her. Jane says "Why is he doing this to me? I did not steal from him?" This is the point where John wanted cry, laugh and bitch slap Jane into her senses. John out of sheer unbelief asks Jane "Aren't you doing the same to me?"

Its a year, later, Jane is not with with John, meets, Tommy. Tommy is much younger to Jane. John meets Jane often to see if Jane changed her ways. John finds out that Jane is in trouble. She has a 'huge burden of her mistakes growing' while Tommy is stealing from her. At this point, comes the line from Jane "Its different when you are on the receiving side". What Jane thinks of being insightful, is nothing but basic lesson in life. Yet, completely caught up between her mistakes growing and Tommys contribution to her growing pain, she continues hoping it will ease her pain.

In short, Jane goes from a life of being with John, from whom, she only stole and enjoyed, to being with Tommy who will continue to steal from her, but cannot leave tommy, for the burden which is growing.

Ofcourse, John is watching all this nonsense, to make his own mistakes. Jane got what was coming to her, what is in store for John? Will he ever trust any person not to steal from him?


Anyhow, the question is that if someone is devoid of compassion, and "when it comes around", would it hurt as much? I would imagine not so, cause compassion and hurt do come from the same place.....cheesy eh?